What They Didn’t Tell Me….
- Ta'Mara Lynna
- Oct 2, 2017
- 2 min read
It’s amazing the things people never tell you about before you have a baby, or get married.
Example: I didn’t know that once I had my son, I would lose all bathroom privacy. I didn’t find out until I had to go to the bathroom and he busted in on me when he learned to crawl. He’s 9 years old and still thinks it’s ok to wait outside my bedroom door until I come out and sometimes he talks to me through the door. Like seriously dude, I’m trying to pee.
I wish someone would have told me ….
… after the first 30 days a switch in my husband ‘s head was going to go off and he would stop being the guy who was sweet and romantic.
…all the little things he did that got on my nerves, would turn into my biggest pet peeves, (i.e. him taking his socks and clothes off in living room).
… sex is a daily activity and the bible is serious when it says do not deprive each other unless in agreement and only for a short time. Not having sex enough causes a lot of problems.
…boundaries are necessary. Guard your marriage.
…your friends of the opposite sex before you got married are no longer your friends unless its agreed upon between you and your husband.
…you no longer have any thing in common with your single friends.
…communication is just as important as sex and must be done just as often.
… pride is the root for destruction in a marriage.
… it is okay to set the standards for your marriage and you don’t have to be like or do things like your parents.
…seek counseling. You can not be married alone. You will need help.
… marriage is not the same as dating or having a live in boyfriend.
… seek out happily married couples to talk to and who will be honest about marriage.
… Talk about sex. What you like, don’t like and don’t be afraid to say it. You’re married now and he’s stuck with you.
… divorce is not an option and when speaking of it, it opens the door for divorce.
… I would not always like my husband, and its ok.
… do not stop dating my spouse.
… the first year is hard… and every year after will be hard if you don’t learn from the lessons from the first year.
… you will argue and it’s ok. but come to an agreement even if its to agree to disagree.
… you will fall in love over and over as you find new things to love about your spouse.
… speak life and pray for your husband daily, he needs it as much as he needs food to eat.
… not to lose yourself trying to be a perfect wife. It’s impossible.
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