Mommin’ without a Momma
- Ta'Mara Lynna
- Jul 12, 2023
- 3 min read
I saw this post:
My first response when reading this post “It’s Ghetto! I do NOT recommend. 0 stars!"
When I think of all the times I wanted to call my momma or send her pictures of her grandkids and couldn’t! Whew chileee!! The tears! I don’t know about you and your relationship with your mom. But I called my momma everyday about everything! Let me tell you what! I don’t care how much she got on my nerves, how many mother wounds I have from my childhood, or how angry I was at her, I still want my momma just like my kids want me. Not being able to call her about every little inconvenience that happens, not being able to go over her house every other Sunday for dinner and not having her at my wedding or with me when I birthed my second child, are moments that cause me to relive the hurt. and I allow myself to relive it and feel. Because house how am i ever suppose to know what happiness is, if i don't allow myself to be sad. How am I supposed to know what is if i don't allow myself to feel hurt? We get so caught up trying to be strong and numbing the pain that we forget that we need it in order to grow.
To all the Adult Orphans who wish they could have one more moment with their mother or their father. I see you sis!
Losing a parent is a different kind of pain that no one can prepare you for. Just like there is no manual for children, there is no manual for living without your mother or father. There are going to be a lot of things that you are going to wish she or he taught you. One of those being how to live without your mother or father. IT DOESN'T EXSIST! Your mother or father can write down or record every piece of her existence and every lesson they ever learned and that would teach you how to live without them.
"But Ta’Mara you’re a Grief Coach!" I sure am. I am a Grief Coach who will also tell you the flat out truth. The truth is I can’t make you feel whole again. I can’t teach you how to live without your parent or loved one. I can only coach you through it. That means I can sit and listen to you vent on those rough days. I can ask you questions to work through your feelings. I can provide you a safe space to feel your feelings without judgement or correction. I can give you ways to cope. But only you can learn to live without your loved one by living without them.
For everyone who still has their parent(s), The late great Tupac Shakur said it best “There ain’t a woman alive that could take my momma place!” I never understood that until I no longer had my mother. So cherish yours, honor her, love her, learn to forgive her while you can still talk to her about your hurt. She truly is irreplaceable. And cherish your children, because not only are they irreplaceable, so are you!
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